5 Steps to Starting your Personal Growth Journey

5 Steps to Starting your Personal Growth Journey

By Karel Mare

This is your last chance. After this, there is no turning back. You take the blue pill – the story ends, you wake up in your bed and believe whatever you want to believe. You take the red pill – you stay in Wonderland and I show you how deep the rabbit-hole goes.

I offer just to a few key steps to beginning your personal growth journey. No this is not a complete list no list ever is, but it is a start and that the key. To Start. I also think that by following these simple steps you’ll find that you’ll achieve your goals much faster and with significantly less resistance.

1. Enjoy the journey If there’s anything that should come in the instruction manual for personal growth it should be “This Is Your Journey – Enjoy It”.  I think the analogy of travel is really a perfect one in this case. As you look over your life at destinations that you’ve travelled to, you’ll notice that the journey from A to B has been one of the most enjoyable experiences. When you travel alone you allow yourself to stop at crazy all night dinners or pull off the road and enjoy a sunset. You discover that all the adventures, all the laughs, all the detours happening during the journey are the reason for the journey. Real growth comes from the experience along the journey, not the arrival point.

“Not all those who wander are lost.” 
― J.R.R. TolkienThe Fellowship of the Ring

2. Detach from outcomes: This is something that we all struggle with. It’s simple, but not easy. When you look at the world around you, you will see we live in a world driven by instant gratification and results. Frozen Food that’s prepared in five minutes, pizza delivered to your door in under 30 minutes, call ahead fast food apps. Every day we are driven to produce more, bigger, faster. “Hit those goals and keep moving” has become the battle cry of personal development in some circles. What is ironic is the attachment to those things and more – more has kept them from manifesting the best of ourselves in my life. When you look at the energy of attachment, it starts to become obvious why it hasn’t manifested. Attachment to an outcome is a signal of lack and thus you create more of a sense of lack. What I know is when I enter fully into the experience for the experience  I tended to learn more than having a minute by minute agenda focused on a defined outcome.

“[D]etachment means letting go and nonattachment means simply letting be.”
― Stephen LevineA Year to Live: How to Live This Year as If It Were Your Last

3. Commit to it: According to Tony Robbins Personal Power Program roughly 90% of people buy a self-improvement tape set and never finish listening to it.  This is kind of amazing considering how badly you want to see a change in your life. If you’ve started the personal development journey. I often talk about the importance of commitment and consistency earlier. Just realize that the journey of personal development doesn’t have an end, it’s lifelong. Once you are on the journey there’s no turning back. Personal Growth is not a weekend event at a Holiday Inn, Personal Growth is a commitment to longterm awareness to change.

“Persistence. Perfection. Patience. Power. Prioritize your passion. It keeps you sane.” — Criss Jami (Killosophy)

4. Measure progress against where you were before, not where you want to be. I don’t remember who told me this, but it was a pretty great advice. When you measure the distance to your goal, it might feel like it’s really far. When you measure how far you’ve actually come, you’ll be blown away. It just required you to shift your perspective. Personal Growth is a journey not an endpoint at an amusement ride.

“I don’t know where I’m going, but I’m on my way.”— Carl Sandburg 

5. Peace of mind: According to Wayne Dyer’s book, Manifest Your Destiny, this is really all you are trying to achieve. Once you realize that the only goal you are trying to really achieve is peace of mind, things have a way of flowing into your life. When we stop struggling against ourselves and start to just BE our selves life takes on a new level of light.

“When you give yourself permission to communicate what matters to you in every situation you will have peace despite rejection or disapproval. Putting a voice to your soul helps you to let go of the negative energy of fear and regret.” 

— Shannon L. Alder

Personal Growth is a journey; a coach if only for a season is often the best way to stay in the journey fully.